"I'm right, you're wrong" — The Fight That Never Ends
Why winning the argument loses the connection — and what to do instead.
The Connection Workshop
The Connection Workshop is a ten-session series of workshops designed to teach you how to use more skill, nuance and flexibility in all kinds of relationships—romantic, with family members, co-workers, and friends.
Fall 2026 Series
The Connection Workshop · Live · Wednesdays · 7:00–8:30 PM ET · Zoom · $47 per session · Join any session, in any order · 18+
Separate from the series, I see a select number of couples and individuals privately.
If We Can't Control Our Partner, Why Do We Keep Trying?
The control reflex, where it comes from, and how to put it down.
Why Unleashing on Your Partner Never Gets You Heard
Full volume feels justified — and gets you defensiveness instead of being heard.
The Destructive Force of Retaliation
Payback feels fair in the moment — and costs the relationship every time.
The Withdrawal Trap
When going quiet becomes going missing — and how to come back.
The Art & Skill of Acceptance
What acceptance actually is (it isn't giving up), and how to practice it.
The Discipline of Listening to Understand
Listening to respond vs. listening to understand — a trainable difference.
Responsible Distance-Taking & Responsible Feedback
How to step back without abandoning — and give feedback that actually lands.
Generosity as a Choice
Generosity as a choice, not a mood — and why it's good for you to give.
Why Should I Apologize?
Why an apology matters — and what makes one land.
The Practice
Individuals
For people who are precise, effective, and well-regarded at work — and cannot reproduce any of it at home.
Defensiveness, shame, the reflex to win, the retreat that reads as calm.
These patterns were learned early. They predate the relationship you're in, and they outlast it unless something interrupts them.
Request a consultationCouples
The argument that repeats on schedule — and the decision underneath it that neither of you will say out loud.
Most couples arrive naming the wrong problem: the money, the dishes, the tone. We work the pattern that generates it.
If the honest answer turns out to be separation, that happens deliberately and with structure, rather than by exhaustion.
Request a consultationHow change
actually
happens
- Clarify the problem, precisely
- Understand its origins, with compassion
- Build new skills, deliberately
- Practice until it shows up in daily life
Workshops
$47 / session
Per participant · live on Zoom · 90 min
Individuals
$150 / 50 min
Private pay · online · discreet
Couples
$300 / 75 min
Private pay · online · discreet
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